What To Write In The Sympathy Card Sent With Your Flower Delivery

Hey there,

At Farmgirl, we also know that for some, sending flowers isn’t always a joyous or celebratory occasion, and allowing us to be part of what may be your most sensitive or vulnerable life moments in years past, this year, and down the line is something we don’t take lightly. We’ve been dreaming up fresh flower bouquets and arrangements for over 14 years and with each round of PD (that’s product development!) and design sessions, we’re always cautious to not only think of what someone might love to receive for their birthday or other celebratory moments, but what might bring a loved one a bit of warmth during what may be a tough or very serious time.

And that got us thinking… we’ve seen millions of card messages over the years and sometimes get asked “What the heck do I say?” when entering in a message for a not-so-joyous occasion and there’s one thing we’ve learned. Whether you’re sending flowers to a loved one during life’s most difficult moments or simply want to lift up a friend who’s not in the best of spirits, the words written in the card with your sympathy flowers delivery offer more comfort than you’d think. Here’s how to pen a message that’s warm, sincere, and genuinely supportive (plus some flower types that might best fit such a sensitive time).

First and foremost, begin with empathy.

Acknowledge the loss and express your sympathy right away. Simple, heartfelt words can set the tone to ensure your recipient feels supported right away. Once you’ve acknowledged the loss or tough time, if you knew the person who passed away, sharing a fond memory or a quality you admired can bring a lot of warmth and sincerity to your note. It brings a personal touch that shows how much the person meant to you:

• "I am deeply sorry for your loss. [Name] brought so much joy and kindness to everyone around them and will be so missed."

• "My heart goes out to you during such a difficult time. [Name’s] had the best, most infectious laugh and will be greatly missed."

• "Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort. I'll never forget when [insert shared memory]. [Name] will be incredibly missed."

Always Offer Support

The goal here is to let your loved one know they’re not alone and you’re there for them. Offering specific help can be very comforting as sometimes, when deep in grief, the ability to even make a small decision or communicate a preference may feel overwhelming. Here a few examples to help paint the picture:

• "I’m here for you, anything you need. If you need me to bring dinner or run to the store for you, I’m only a text or call away."

• "You have my deepest condolences and unwavering support. If I can help with the kids or make any calls for you, just let me know."

• "Whether you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, I’m here for you day or night."

End Your Note With Simplicity And Care

Choosing a warm closing that reinforces your support, condolences, and care for the person you’re writing to is a great way to round out your message. For example, using phrases like "With all my love and sympathy," or “Sending you strength and peace," provides a bit more comfort than “From” or “Thanks” – it’s in the details, especially during difficult moments of sorrow or grief. If you need a little inspiration as to what to write in your sympathy card, here are a few examples of warm, heartfelt sympathy messages for you to pull from and make your own.

For the loss of a loved one:

• "I am deeply sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family during such a difficult time. I’ll always remember [Name]’s kindness and the joy they brought into our lives. If there’s anything I can do to help support you during this time, please don’t hesitate to reach out. With all my love and sympathy, [Your Name]."

• "Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort. [Name]’s laughter was absolutely infectious and will be greatly missed. Please let me know if I can run any errands for you or bring you dinner one day. Sending you strength, [Your Name]."

• "My heart is heavy with sadness for your loss. I’ll always cherish the memories of [Name], especially the time when [shared memory]. You have my deepest condolences and unwavering support. With heartfelt sympathy, [Your Name]."

For a friend who has passed away:

• "I am heartbroken over the loss of [Name]. They were such an incredible person and friend who brought so much joy into my life. I will always cherish our memories together. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this time."

• "Losing [Name] feels like losing a part of myself. They weren’t just a friend but a sibling by heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you. If there’s anything I can do to make this season easier, I’m a text or call away."

For the loss of a parent:

• "I am so sorry for the loss of your [mother/father]. They were an extraordinary person who touched so many lives and always made an impact everywhere they went. May you find peace and comfort in the loving memories you shared. If I can help with the kids or make any calls for you during this time, please let me know."

• "Your [mother/father] was a remarkable individual who always knew how to make people feel loved. I hope you feel surrounded by love and support during this time. My heartfelt condolences are with you and I’m here to support however I can, just say the word."

For the loss of a child:

• "There are no words to express the deep sorrow I feel for your loss. [Name] was a beautiful soul who brought light into this world, loved fiercely, and brought a smile to everyone around them. I’m here to help make this time easier for you in any way I can, so please let me know if there’s anything at all (chores, running errands, etc.) I can do to help. My heart is with you and your family."

• "I am so sorry for the loss of your precious [son/daughter]. Their memory will live on in the hearts of all who knew and loved them. Please know that I am here for you, and you have my deepest sympathy."

For a colleague or acquaintance who has passed away:

• "I was deeply saddened to hear about the passing of [Name]. They were such a wonderful person who we cherished seeing every day in the office and will be greatly missed. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time."

• "My deepest sympathies go out to you for the loss of [Name]. They were a valued member of our team, always kept us laughing, and a great person. Wishing you strength and comfort in the days ahead."

For the loss of a pet:

• "I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved [pet’s name]. They brought so much joy and love into our lives and the best couch snuggles. Their memory will always hold a special place in your and our hearts."

• "Losing a pet is losing a family member. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. [Pet’s name] will always be remembered with love and fondness."

When sending fresh flowers, choose an appropriate arrangement.

While we’re usually always down for a bright and colorful flower arrangement (they are the bread and butter of our bouquets, after all), be cautious when choosing to send certain flower varieties or color palettes to someone in the thick of grieving a loss. Different blooms carry different meanings, and pairing your words with the right flowers can create a deeper connection vs missing the vibe. For sympathy flowers, the safest bet is to stick with neutrals, ivories, creams, or baby pinks or peaches. And as much as we love a bold flower moment, this is one of those occasions where you might want to stay away from those. Some of our favorite, most symbolic sympathy flower varieties include lilies, roselilies, neutral roses, or other neutrals.

Sending flowers and a heartfelt message can offer a small ray of light during dark times and never forget this: the sincerity of your words will bring comfort and show how much you care. If you’re looking to send a beautiful, heartfelt arrangement to someone going through a tough time, we’ve got you covered. Shop all flower delivery collections of thoughtfully designed bouquets that can help express your sympathy and support available for online delivery as soon as the next day.

xx,

Team Farmgirl